I saw in another post that you didn't like the semi-auto, but I will say that the .32 caliber pistol is a good gun for women, though it is semi-auto. The Kahr E9 is also a very good gun which is also semi-auto. Both of these guns are very light. The real problem is that it's very subjective. What one woman likes is not always what another woman likes. The .38 revolver is a pretty big gun, so I understand your concern. I would really suggest going to your local gun shop (maybe look online for reviews of it) and asking to try a few out. It's very important to find a gun that you like.